As we celebrate Mother’s Day this Sunday we would like to celebrate all the women who have shaped our lives with love, care, and resilience. It’s a time to reflect on the countless ways mothers whether biological, adoptive, foster, or those who have stepped into the role of a mother figure make the world a better place, one heart at a time. This Mother’s Day, we would like to appreciate the extraordinary impact mothers have on their families, communities, and beyond.

Celebrating Mother’s Day with a foster child is about more than just a day—it’s about building a strong connection, fostering trust, and creating memories that will last a lifetime. A foster mother’s love helps children rebuild their confidence and gives them a sense of belonging. As foster mothers celebrate Mother’s Day, they are reminded of the powerful impact they have on a child’s life, and how their unconditional love serves as a cornerstone for a child’s healing and growth.

Top Tips on Supporting a Child in Care on Mother’s Day

Mother’s Day can be a challenging time for children in care, particularly those who may have experienced trauma, loss, or separation from their birth families. For many children, this day may bring up complicated feelings, whether it’s about missing their birth mother or adjusting to life with a foster family. As a foster parent or caregiver, it’s important to provide extra care and sensitivity on this day to help a child feel supported, understood, and loved. Here are some top tips for supporting a child in care on Mother’s Day.

1. Acknowledge Their Feelings

Children in care may have mixed emotions on Mother’s Day. They may feel sadness, confusion, anger, or even guilt. It’s important to acknowledge these feelings and let the child know that it’s okay to feel whatever they are feeling. Sometimes, simply saying, “I know this day can be hard for you, and it’s okay to feel however you feel” can help them feel heard and validated.

2. Create a Safe Space for Communication

Give the child an opportunity to talk about their birth mother if they want to. Ask open-ended questions like, “How are you feeling about Mother’s Day?” or “Would you like to share something about your mom?” Allowing them to express themselves without judgment can help alleviate any pressure they might feel. If they’re not ready to talk, that’s okay too—just being there and offering your support can make a big difference.

4. Create New Traditions Together

Mother’s Day doesn’t have to be about the traditional gifts and celebrations. Instead, create a new tradition that feels comfortable for the child. This could be something as simple as making a card together, spending the day doing an activity they enjoy, or having a quiet, special meal. This way, you can create meaningful memories that are tailored to their comfort level and personal journey.

5. Offer a Sense of Stability

For children in care, routine and stability can be incredibly comforting. If the child is feeling anxious or emotional, try to maintain normalcy by sticking to their regular schedule for the day. This can help reduce stress and provide a sense of security. You might also consider involving them in family activities, showing them that they are an important part of the family, regardless of the circumstances.

9. Plan Ahead for Potential Triggers

If you know that the child may have a tough time with Mother’s Day due to past trauma or the separation from their birth mother, plan ahead to create a calm, supportive environment. You might want to minimize any Mother’s Day events or conversations that could be overwhelming. On the flip side, ensure you have something comforting available for them, such as their favorite blanket, a quiet space to retreat to, or a comforting activity like drawing or listening to music.

10. Be Gentle with Expectations

Children in care may not fully understand what Mother’s Day is about, or they may not feel ready to participate in the way you expect. Don’t pressure them into a celebration or activity they’re not comfortable with. It’s okay if they don’t want to join in with a group celebration or if they prefer a low-key day. What’s most important is showing them that you care and providing a supportive space for them, no matter how they choose to engage.

11. Reflect on Your Own Role as a Caregiver

As a foster parent, Mother’s Day can be a time to reflect on your own role and the impact you’ve made in the child’s life. It’s not about being a replacement for their biological mother, but rather about being a source of support, guidance, and love. Take pride in the progress you’ve made together and remember that every day of care and attention counts, not just on Mother’s Day.

To all the mothers—biological, adoptive, foster, and all who fill the role of a mother figure—this day is for you. Your love, strength, and unwavering dedication shape the world in ways words can hardly express. Thank you for your tireless commitment to nurturing, supporting, and guiding the next generation.

From all of us, Happy Mother’s Day! May your day be filled with love, appreciation, and all the joy you so richly deserve.